ask Knox: booty call conflict

21Jul09

mailboxHey Knox,

I recently got a text from an out-of-town-fuck-buddy, who says shes going to be in my city  next weekend. Normally, I’d be really excited about seeing her, but I just got serious with someone else, and I don’t think it’d be appropriate to hang out with the out-of-towner, who is going to have some obvious expectations. I don’t know whether I should cop to the fact that I’m seeing somebody, or if I should just avoid her outright. Any thoughts?

Well, that all depends.  Are you trying to do the right thing or have your cake and eat it too?  Because it goes without saying that if you hang out with her, something will likely happen.  If you must see her, I recommend being upfront with the fact that you have a girlfriend because these sorts of lies have a way of coming back to haunt you.  Just when you think everything is fine and you’re past your past’s indiscretions, bam – you get blindsided by the truth on some idle Sunday morning.  Next thing you know, everyone is in tears and your Les Paul is getting thrown out of your fifth story apartment that you just signed a two-year lease for, with none other than the woman who now hates your guts.

Obviously (well, I maybe not to you) the conventional wisdom, or morality, is that you should be honest with your girlfriend and your out-of-towner, and if you’re just straight up, things will pan out as they should.  However, if you must be sneaky, at least tell your partner in crime what’s going on.  In other words, do damage control when it comes to your web of lies and deceit.  Otherwise you’ll all end up running into each other randomly and extreme awkwardness will ensue.



One Response to “ask Knox: booty call conflict”

  1. 1 Stephanie

    Dear Booty Call Conflict-

    If you are serious with someone, you should respect them enough to be faithful. How would you feel if your new lover told you she was going to hook up with an old booty call? Or if she didn’t tell you and you found out?

    It is my experience, that a booty call is a booty call and will likely respect the fact that you’re with someone now. I doubt it would burn any bridges for future encounters should your current relationship not work out~ be honest with the “friend,” but dont go see her.


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